My wife and I are white. We adopted our wonderful African American children at birth. We strive daily to help our son grow up to be a confident, proud and loving black man and our daughter to be a confident, proud and loving black woman. I hope our experiences will help others who are doing the same.

Friday, September 5, 2014




I absolutely love this poster. It is in significant contrast to what I saw when I visited Cheryl's Beauty Supply two days ago.

My teenage son is training his hair for waves and he has been asking for a Crown Quality brush for his birthday.

The http://www.crownqualityproducts.com/caesar.html is either sold out or out of stock. So, naturally I ask the father of one of my daughter's classmates, who happens to have some Hardcore waves (o.k., I don't think I can get away with that--nice waves) where I might find a "Is it Royal Crown, or Crown Royal, brush?" My children cringe every time I open my mouth.

"Why do you have to talk to Elijah's dad like that Dad? You're embarrassing."

I find the shop. It is just down the road from Barber Love's where Jake and I get our hair cut. I park my car behind the new development in old Lansing, a joint project with a local developer and Michigan State University attempting to gentrify a Michigan Avenue Shopping District.

Parking is in the back and I enter the rear door to Cheryl's Beauty Supply. I step inside and am overwhelmed by an abundance of straight hair packaged in plastic hanging on all the walls--blue, red, blonde, black, streaked, tipped, brown, pink. The only place there isn't straight hair in plastic packages is on top of the aisle shelves where there is straight and wavy hair perched atop foam heads. The earless heads with pointed noses and the thin lips seem to be staring at me through the their concave depressions where eyes should be. "Wrong door, Subways around the corner."

But, long ago I found that my comfort zone is being uncomfortable, and I walk up to the counter and ask if they have a Royal Crown brush. "You mean a Crown Quality brush?" Donna nicely corrects me.

They don't carry them but they do have a collection of 100% boars bristle brushes. She also shows me the wave curl activator section. I walk out with Luster's S-curl Wave Jel Activator.




I give my son the activator and ever since he has been brushing more than Snapchatting.

I'm still looking for the Crown Quality Brush. But, I was informed that in addition to the brush, he now requires a doo rag.

Now, I bought him one when he as seven. At the time my wife was like he doesn't need a doo rag. But eight years later now it is, "Well you know the cotton pillow case absorbs the gel and his hair will get all out of place. He needs a doo rag." Thank you Erica and Adoption hair_skincare Facebook Page. Seriously though, thank you, we have both learned a lot from the page.




With time running out before his birthday, I think I'll be stopping by Cheryl's this afternoon.

This time I'll just glare a "Yep, I'm in the right place," at the army of straight haired foam heads as I enter the backdoor.