My wife and I are white. We adopted our wonderful African American children at birth. We strive daily to help our son grow up to be a confident, proud and loving black man and our daughter to be a confident, proud and loving black woman. I hope our experiences will help others who are doing the same.

Monday, November 22, 2010

Can I instill too much black pride?

Can I go too far in instilling black pride in my young black man? I knew he was just having some fun when at the end of school last year, he enlisted two of his friends to join him in the black power salute ala Tommy Smith at the 1968 Olympics as they lowered the school flag for the summer. But at a recent campfire, with an older African American boy present, I heard Jacob indicate that only black people could do something - not sure what the something was. Some of my early writings which can be found here discuss how we have attempted through various pathways to inject a sense of pride in being black for both of our children. Just wondering if I went too far with Jacob, though I am delighted that he is very comfortable being a young black man. I'm sure I didn't - it is interesting to see how those roots we planted 6,7,8 years ago are shooting into a strong sapling.


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What's Cooking?

Andria and I stumbled on to What's Cooking, a multi-cultural Thanksgiving Movie made in 2000 which stars among many Dennis Haysbert (I couldn't help but think of buying Allstate Insurance every time he spoke). Among the many things that struck me was the insistence of an African American Grandma on including Mac and Cheese in the holiday menu because it was traditional for their family. I realize whatever our menu for our children is will be their tradition, so I'm thinking of adding Mac and Cheese which wasn't traditional for Andria and I but might be a nice addition to our multicultural family Thanksgiving Dinner.